Waiting for Sex
Waiting for Sex?
Let’s be honest—waiting for sex is not a popular choice these days. We are in a hooked-up world full of one-night stands and “friends with benefits.” But there are several reasons to consider waiting.
Pregnancy Risk = 0
There are an estimated 3.3 million unplanned pregnancies in the U.S. each year. Most are among women ages 18-24. A sad reality is that most guys don’t stick around when their girlfriends become pregnant.
We know that children do best when raised in a stable, two-parent home. Studies show they are much more likely to stay in school, not get in trouble, and have healthy relationships.
Waiting for sex is the only 100% effective way to prevent an unexpected pregnancy.
STDs Can Bring Life-long Health Consequences.
“But we use a condom every time,” you insist. Unfortunately, condoms only reduce the risk of a sexually transmitted disease or infection by 60-70 percent. Even if you use a condom correctly they can break or slip. Plus condoms don’t cover everything.
Most guys with an STD (sexually transmitted disease) don’t know it. Routine testing on men usually doesn’t provide information on HPV (Human Papillomavirus) or Herpes. Since people with STDs often don’t have symptoms initially, they can unknowingly give an STD to their partners.
The Center for Disease Control reports that one in two sexually active young adults is infected with one or more STDs. Today, 15-24 year olds account for nearly half of new STD infections. Of the 25 STDs out there, many are not curable. Some cause cancer, infertility and even death.
The only way to completely protect yourself from an STD is to wait for sex.
Waiting Protects Emotions
Men and women are different. Research has shown that women generally have sex because they are hoping for a meaningful, long-term relationship. Guys, on the other hand, have sex because it feels good and because they can then brag to friends about it. A guy may say, “I love you,” just to get you to agree to sex.
A study by researchers at Cornell University found that women who waited to have sex were happier and their sex lives were better than those who had sex early in a relationship.
Waiting on sex until you are in a life-long relationship such as marriage can eliminate your worries and your risks and help you find true intimacy and love.
My Boyfriend Will Dump Me if I Say No to Sex
It is possible that you may lose a boyfriend or two when you make a decision to wait. But if they are willing to leave you because you want to wait, you have to ask yourself do they really love you? Sex is not the same as love. Someone who truly loves you should be willing to wait.
It’s Too Late, I’ve Already Had Sex
It’s never too late to make a new start. If you respect yourself, others will respect you. The best thing to do is be upfront and tell them you are waiting for sex. If you’re already in a relationship, it’s okay to let him know you’ve decided to wait before you have more sex. Let him know exactly what your boundaries are.
Your First Look Women’s Center in Toledo, Ohio can answer your questions about STDs and making a decision to wait for sex.